With this New Year being the beginning of a new decade, I can smell the fresh aroma of optimism and excitement brewing in the air for what this year has to offer. This is the time social media is beaming with quotes like “New year, New Me” and “This year I’m going to be doing me, say less, more action, and succeed in silent”. These all sound positive and encouraging, but what they do is make us believe that by quoting them, magically like a Cinderella movie when the time strikes midnight on new year’s eve we can suddenly be transformed. The beginning of a new year can be an exciting time, but a new year doesn’t automatically mean a new you, that would require some changes and hard work.

Whatever self-sabotaging habits and lifestyles we had before the New Year came to be will not magically disappear due to the fact that it’s now 2020, you can’t shed a bad behavior overnight. To make the year new, there are changes that needs to occur within us, mind-sets that needs to change, habits that needs to change and so on. We can’t be doing the same things and expect different results, that’s absurd. What makes the year new is not necessarily because the calendar changed, but what changes in you and what you do to make the year different and that’s why there can be a new year and find people still going through the same old stuff they were dealing with 10 years ago due to an unchanged mindset and ways of doing things. Therefore, if you would want to see improved changes this New Year, it will require a better you, because nothing changes until we change and change will require hard work. We are all well aware that change can be painful and difficult sometimes and that’s why we choose to rather go with the flow of life and be stuck in our comfort zone ,not willing to do the work and accommodate change to reach our goals. What we don’t realize is that being stuck in the past habits and old ways of doing things can prevent us from having what we really desire and thus keeps us in a rat race throughout the years.

If you desire to have a better year, it may require some self-improvement, hard work, perseverance, consistency and self-discipline to reach your goals for 2020. Know that you can change, work on your goals and start anything anytime of the year, don’t pressure yourself more than you can handle. I think people will change when they are ready to change. You don’t need to wait for a new year to change either, every day, every hour, minute and second is an opportunity to do better and be better.

“We are ever capable of change and ever capable of being our better self”

Cassandra Clare

So instead of focusing on “New Year , new me” we can rather focus on “new year , better me”,  we can focus on becoming better versions of ourselves, learning from our past mistakes in order to make this the best year yet. Find areas in your life that you think you need improvement in to be better and do better. And in the process celebrate your accomplishments no matter how small or big they are. We are all work in progress, striving to be the best versions of ourselves don’t forget to Love and be kind to yourself and remember to breathe.

XOXO

Vee