‘If at first you don’t succeed, then dust yourself off and try again”

Aaliyah

Ola my beautiful people. I know, I know I haven’t written in a while, I took a long un-intentional break from writing. During this time a lot has happened but I won’t get into that now. One thing that I can say is that during this time life has been teaching me some lessons. I have been learning, reading, listening and simply just being still.

What I have been learning lately though is to allow and give myself grace when I fail, to give myself the same grace that God gives me. See, I’m little bit of what one would call a ”perfectionist”. My perfectionist syndrome does not allow me to fail sometimes and when I do fail I beat myself up so much that I end up dwelling on the issue. which in return leaves me worn out and tired that all I want to do is give up.

What myself and many others who experience the same issue don’t understand is that we are human beings, flesh and blood, we are not perfect beings and that means that yes sometimes we are going to fail or fall. However what matters is what we do when we fall. Do we allow our mistakes and failures to dictate the rest of our lives by being held hostage and stagnant by fear and shame we place on ourselves, or do we stand up, dust ourselves off and try again.

The bible says in Proverbs 24:16 ” for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes”. Seeing that we are all imperfect beings we know that in ourselves we are not righteous, but because of what Jesus did on the cross for us we are now considered righteous in the sight of God, Amen! It is not by what we do but by what he did and by his grace that those that believe in him are called righteous. So yes even righteous people sometimes fail, even Christian sometimes fail, even successful people sometimes fail.

But hear me carefully ,I’m not encouraging deliberate failing or falling but what I’m trying to say here is that we need to allow ourselves grace to stand up and try again when we fail, instead of simply giving up on ourselves. why is it that we believe in others soo much that we forgive and give them grace for their mistakes and failures but when we fail we tend to be harsh on ourselves.

Never stop trying, you only fail because you stop trying.

So with that said I hope you give yourself a chance again, I hope when life tells you to give up that hope whispers ‘try again‘.

I believe in you, you can do this.

Love and Light

~ Vee