It’s okay to say NO
The word “NO” for me has to be one of the hardest word to say. What I have learned over the years is that, its okay to say no, because when I say YES to the things I want to say No to, I automatically say No to myself. I struggle with saying no sometimes because I feel like when I say no it means I’m being selfish and rude. At times I feel the pressure to do the things that I don’t want to do, and it’s usually pressure that I place on myself. In a world that’s so demanding, expectations from others can be overwhelming and being a people’s pleaser doesn’t help either. I often struggle with peoples pleasing tendencies, and I realised that this is due to my fear of rejection. I don’t like people to think negatively of me, so I don’t like to deliberately hurt people’s feelings by being rude, and that adds on so much pressure to say yes when you want to say no. The fear of being rejected or not being liked by others can cause one to do things for others even if you don’t really want to and this can make it difficult to say no.
But you know what? It’s okay to say No, It’s okay to say No if it bring you peace of mind. It’s okay to say No to toxic relationships. It’s okay to say No I will rather stay in and relax than go out. It’s okay to say No I don’t want to give you my number. It’s okay to say No I’m too busy to help you out with that. It’s okay to say No that doesn’t sit well with my values and beliefs. It’s okay to say No without feeling guilty or over explaining yourself. It’s okay to be a little selfish with your time and space. People will have demands and expectations from you and sometimes you will be able to meet their needs and other times you won’t, nevertheless it doesn’t make you a bad person.
It’s okay to say No, because when you say No you say Yes to yourself. Yes to your dreams, yes to your values and morals, yes to the person you want to become, yes to better relationships, yes to self-love, yes to peace. Remember you show people how to treat you and if you don’t set boundaries people will treat you any type of way because they think you are okay with it. So don’t be afraid to say No I don’t like the way you treated me and I deserve better. Your no reinforces self-respect, if it chases them away, than let them walk right out of your life because that means they never deserved your yes anyways. You are not here to win the approval of man. The only approval you need is Gods approval, Apostle Paul in Galatians 1:10 puts it this way; “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” So quit trying to please people and fearing man’s rejection. You can’t always control what people will think about you, you are already accepted and approved by the king of kings. God’s approval is more important, so if your yes means saying no to God and his Will, then it’s not worth saying it.
“Give yourself the permission to say NO to anything that makes you unhappy, and or drains your energy”
Learn to balance being kind without sacrificing your self-worth, beliefs and morals. Remember No is just as important as Yes.
Love and Light.
Vee
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