~Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are~

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There is an old saying that goes “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”. I never really used to believe in this saying. I would roll my eyes every time I would hear it. But having had observed and experienced it myself, I now find some truth to this. You can tell a lot about a person by the company they keep. People that you are most closes to whether you believe it or not will affect you in many ways.

You are the average of the five people you spend your time with

As crazy and scary as this sounds, this calls for us to examine the type of people we hang out with. Those that you call friends, are they adding to your life? Do they inspire you? Do they motivate you to do better? How do they make you feel and do they help you achieve your goals? Your support system are crucial to you achieving your goals. Achieving success is much easier when you are surrounded by the right people. Thus it’s very important to hang out with like-minded people, people that are going in the same direction as you would want to go, friends that have similar goals, values, believes and morals, or else you will always find yourself compromising on yours. If you want to be rich hang out with rich people, if you want to be a businessman hang out with other businessmen that are ahead of you, you will get to learn a lot from them and they will motivate you to get out of your comfort zone. Take a look at your five closest friends and determine whether these people are rooting for your success or keeping you complacent. If your friends are keeping you stuck and not willing to change, you might have to consider letting them go and loving them from a distance.

Some friendships may be harder to let go than others, this may be due to the strong bonds that you have developed. Perhaps you have known them for years and they give you a sense of comfort because they are the people you most comfortable with, they are the people you relate to and are compatible with, but sometimes what we call compatibility is just shared dysfunction. We keep friends like these around because they make us comfortable in our dysfunctions they don’t push us out of our comfort or challenge us in anyway and thus you never get the urge to change. One thing that is important to realize is that it’s okay to outgrow certain friendships. People come into our lives at certain seasons and they might be beneficial at certain seasons of your life, but in other seasons they might hinder your growth. As you change and mature your values change, your thoughts patterns change, your goals change and that may not necessarily be the same case for your friends and they might not understand your new path or journey. There are friends who connect with us from where we came from but not where we are going and at times you cannot reach your future with certain past friends. They just feed on you, drain you and deplete you. You can’t keep relating with people who are still connected to what you trying to disconnect from and if you continue hanging out with them you might forfeit your future.

 Do not be deceived bad company corrupts good character
 1 Corinthians 15:33

At times we hang on to our friends with hope that they may change as we believe that hanging out with them wouldn’t affect us in any way. What we must know is that our environments mold us and can shape who we become. You can’t hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life. Is who you spend time with who you want to be? Because years from now on you will be a reflection of who you hang around with. Your dream in your heart may be bigger than the environment you find yourself in. Sometimes you have to get out of the environment to see your dream be fulfilled.  Have you ever hanged around someone so much that eventually you start talking like they do, you start using the same lingo and words as they do, all of a sudden you start speaking all negatively when you used to be a positive person? Eventually you become like those you surround yourself with, this is because we are creatures of habits and our subconscious mind absorbs and keeps records of the thing we see, hear and think about, so do not be deceived bad company corrupts good seed.

I know that we can’t choose family members, but we have the freedom to choose friends, business partners, and spouses etc. So let’s choose them wisely, pick people that have similar goals and virtues as you do. Choose people who are going to help you where you are going and not based on where you have been. Surround yourself with good company that supports good character. Remember unfriending is just as important as friending, choose wisely.

Love and Light

Vee

Avail-ability

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when I think about the word availability I cant help but break it in two words where at one end you have ”Avail” and at the other “Ability”. Cambridge dictionary defines avail as “to help or be useful to someone or something“ and ability as ” the physical or mental power or skill needed to do something. This reminds me of my walk with God where I sometimes want to avail myself to be used by God but at the same time feel like I don’t have the ability to do it. Perhaps like me you also wonder how you can make an impact for God in your community, or in your profession or business, but you doubt that God can use you. Sometimes because of our past or current situations,background,skin color,race,height,lack of education and so on we feel incompetent to be used by God . However,God is not necessarily looking at our ability to do something (because he is able) , but instead he is looking for people after his own heart that will avail their heart to him,he wants our availability.

There were times in my journey with the lord where I would have an opportunity to talk to someone about Jesus and I would want to do it but my shyness, fear of rejection and not knowing what to say and so on would stop me from saying anything. I would build all this scenarios in my head on how I couldn’t do it,that I’m too shy, not enough,and that people wouldn’t want to listen to me. I didn’t feel worthy of being used by God because of my past and my sinful nature and eventually I would talk myself out of saying something.

But I realized that I don’t have to have it all figured out or to know it all in order to be used by God, I just need to seek God,have a heart for his Will and avail myself to him,lean on his strength and not my own and what I’m not able to do,hes able to do it.

“God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called”

I believe that God doesn’t look at who we think we are or our qualifications to see if he can use us or not, but he looks at our hearts,who he created when he created us and who we could be in him. The bible serves as the best example how God used ordinary people just like you and me to do great and mighty works for him, for example; Noah was a drunk,Abraham was too old,Isaac was a daydreamer,Jacob was a liar,Joseph was abused,Moses had a stuttering problem,Gideon was afraid,Samson was a womanizer,Rahab was a prostitute,Jeremiah was too young,David was an adulterer and a murderer,Elijah was suicidal,Jonah ran from God,Naomi was a widow,Peter denied Christ,Martha worried about everything and Paul killed Christians. These are people in the bible that were not perfect but still got used by God one way or another. whatever your situation is, it is not to late to turn away from it to leave it behind, to seek and turn to God,because he can still use you.

God can use us in many ways,it doesn’t always have to be grand and extra,it can be in the simple day to day ways, like being nice to someone who is going through a rough phase in their life just to bring a smile on their face or bringing a word of encouragement to someone when they need it the most, tipping a waitress with a generous amount at a restaurant whether the service was great or not, you never know maybe that person had a bad day and also really needed the money you tipped them. It’s in this simple kind gestures of serving that makes people believe in the goodness of people and in the love of God. It’s in these little moments that miracles can happen.

Paul in 1 Corinthians 1: 26-29 wrote ” For consider your calling, brothers: not many of you were wise according to worldly standards,not many were powerful, not many were of noble birth.  But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong;  God chose what is low and despised in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are, so that no human being might boast in the presence of God”.

Paul is telling us that God uses the foolish things to shame the wise so that no human being might be able to boast in their own ability. When you think you have it all together and have everything going in your favor, then you won’t lean on God,you will rely on your own strength. But if you know that you can’t do everything on your own,then you will rely on God for strength and that’s when God can show his greatness, for his grace is sufficient for us, his power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).

So whenever you feel like you not enough or doubt your ability to do something great for God remember that it is not by our own strength or power that we are able to do things,but by Gods grace and strength. What you can do is avail yourself to him, give God your Yes,turn away from your sins, surrender your fear and anxiety to him and watch him do great things through you.

Love and Light

~Vee

~Note to self~

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It’s okay to say NO

The word “NO” for me has to be one of the hardest word to say. What I have learned over the years is that, its okay to say no, because when I say YES to the things I want to say No to, I automatically say No to myself. I struggle with saying no sometimes because I feel like when I say no it means I’m being selfish and rude. At times I feel the pressure to do the things that I don’t want to do, and it’s usually pressure that I place on myself. In a world that’s so demanding, expectations from others can be overwhelming and being a people’s pleaser doesn’t help either. I often struggle with peoples pleasing tendencies, and I realised that this is due to my fear of rejection. I don’t like people to think negatively of me, so I don’t like to deliberately hurt people’s feelings by being rude, and that adds on so much pressure to say yes when you want to say no. The fear of being rejected or not being liked by others can cause one to do things for others even if you don’t really want to and this can make it difficult to say no.

But you know what? It’s okay to say No, It’s okay to say No if it bring you peace of mind. It’s okay to say No to toxic relationships. It’s okay to say No I will rather stay in and relax than go out. It’s okay to say No I don’t want to give you my number. It’s okay to say No I’m too busy to help you out with that. It’s okay to say No that doesn’t sit well with my values and beliefs. It’s okay to say No without feeling guilty or over explaining yourself. It’s okay to be a little selfish with your time and space. People will have demands and expectations from you and sometimes you will be able to meet their needs and other times you won’t, nevertheless it doesn’t make you a bad person.

It’s okay to say No, because when you say No you say Yes to yourself.  Yes to your dreams, yes to your values and morals, yes to the person you want to become, yes to better relationships, yes to self-love, yes to peace. Remember you show people how to treat you and if you don’t set boundaries people will treat you any type of way because they think you are okay with it. So don’t be afraid to say No I don’t like the way you treated me and I deserve better. Your no reinforces self-respect, if it chases them away, than let them walk right out of your life because that means they never deserved your yes anyways. You are not here to win the approval of man. The only approval you need is Gods approval, Apostle Paul in Galatians 1:10 puts it this way; “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” So quit trying to please people and fearing man’s rejection. You can’t always control what people will think about you, you are already accepted and approved by the king of kings.  God’s approval is more important, so if your yes means saying no to God and his Will, then it’s not worth saying it.

“Give yourself the permission to say NO to anything that makes you unhappy, and or drains your energy”

Learn to balance being kind without sacrificing your self-worth, beliefs and morals. Remember No is just as important as Yes.

Love and Light.

Vee

Nothing changes if nothing changes…

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With this New Year being the beginning of a new decade, I can smell the fresh aroma of optimism and excitement brewing in the air for what this year has to offer. This is the time social media is beaming with quotes like “New year, New Me” and “This year I’m going to be doing me, say less, more action, and succeed in silent”. These all sound positive and encouraging, but what they do is make us believe that by quoting them, magically like a Cinderella movie when the time strikes midnight on new year’s eve we can suddenly be transformed. The beginning of a new year can be an exciting time, but a new year doesn’t automatically mean a new you, that would require some changes and hard work.

Whatever self-sabotaging habits and lifestyles we had before the New Year came to be will not magically disappear due to the fact that it’s now 2020, you can’t shed a bad behavior overnight. To make the year new, there are changes that needs to occur within us, mind-sets that needs to change, habits that needs to change and so on. We can’t be doing the same things and expect different results, that’s absurd. What makes the year new is not necessarily because the calendar changed, but what changes in you and what you do to make the year different and that’s why there can be a new year and find people still going through the same old stuff they were dealing with 10 years ago due to an unchanged mindset and ways of doing things. Therefore, if you would want to see improved changes this New Year, it will require a better you, because nothing changes until we change and change will require hard work. We are all well aware that change can be painful and difficult sometimes and that’s why we choose to rather go with the flow of life and be stuck in our comfort zone ,not willing to do the work and accommodate change to reach our goals. What we don’t realize is that being stuck in the past habits and old ways of doing things can prevent us from having what we really desire and thus keeps us in a rat race throughout the years.

If you desire to have a better year, it may require some self-improvement, hard work, perseverance, consistency and self-discipline to reach your goals for 2020. Know that you can change, work on your goals and start anything anytime of the year, don’t pressure yourself more than you can handle. I think people will change when they are ready to change. You don’t need to wait for a new year to change either, every day, every hour, minute and second is an opportunity to do better and be better.

“We are ever capable of change and ever capable of being our better self”

Cassandra Clare

So instead of focusing on “New Year , new me” we can rather focus on “new year , better me”,  we can focus on becoming better versions of ourselves, learning from our past mistakes in order to make this the best year yet. Find areas in your life that you think you need improvement in to be better and do better. And in the process celebrate your accomplishments no matter how small or big they are. We are all work in progress, striving to be the best versions of ourselves don’t forget to Love and be kind to yourself and remember to breathe.

XOXO

Vee

GoodBye 2019 and Hello 2020

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2020 year of perfect vision

Reflecting back on 2019

I have started of my 2019 with very high expectations and very excited to see what the year had in store for me, but at the same time overwhelmed by the unknown and the failure of not reaching my expectations. Like many, I had written down my resolutions of all that I wanted to accomplish in 2019. Looking back on this list I’m happy to say that I have ticked off some of these goals, and I choose to look at the positive and not concentrate on the ones that I did not accomplish. Most of the time we make these long list of resolutions which we measure ourselves against when we don’t complete them by the end of the year we feel like failures, and no I’m not against these list or the making of goals but rather the pressure we assert on ourselves when we don’t do them by the end of the year, we feel like the world is ending. It’s never really a failure if we take it is as lesson and try to improve on it to make the next year even better. 2019 like any other year had its ups and down, I laughed, cried, danced, loved, grieved, lost some friends, gained some friends, made mistakes and all, but through it all I came out the other side even stronger, with more faith then before. My peaks of 2019 was when I graduated for honors in biotechnology and when I got a job, pits has to be when I lost my uncle. Nevertheless, I remain grateful to God for being with me throughout the year for never leaving me nor forsaking me when people had leaved me, for his grace, for not giving up on me when I had given up on myself, for his love, for loving me when I was unlovable and for his continual patience, favor and blessings when I didn’t deserve it. I truly wouldn’t have made it through this year without him, all glory be to God.

Hello 2020

With the long awaited 2020 being just around the corner I can’t help be excited for what this new decade has to offer. I’m going into 2020 with an open and clean heart and mind. I’m leaving behind all the past hurts, past disappointments, failures, the should’ve, could’ve and would’ve. I’m going into this year with a new perspective on life. I’m forgetting what lays behind and pressing forward to what lays ahead. I know that 2020 will be what I make of it, I’m aware that nothing will change unless I change. I’m willing to do the work to make 2020 the best year yet. I’m declaring that my best days are ahead of me, that no eyes has seen ,no ears have heard ,no human mind has conceived what God has prepared for me for this year and beyond(1 Corinthians 2:9). I’m decreeing and declaring this year to be the year of perfect vision, this is the year that Gods perfect vision for my life will be revealed, the year that I’m going to discover and walk fully in my God given purpose, and this is the year for better and greater things. This is the year of alignment, things that need to fall into place will fall into place and what needs to fall apart for a greater purpose will fall apart.

I’m praying for more love, peace, health, joy, and success to be magnified in my life. I’m submitting my plans to the lord, preparing and doing what I can, so that what I can’t do God can. Overall May Gods will be done over my life. May this year bring you more health, love, peace, joy, wealth and success. I pray that you will walk in the fullness of who you are in the lord. May 2020 be a year of letting go any and anything that weighs you down and stunts your growth. May the lord be with you, guide and protect you throughout.

Xoxo

VEE

|INTIMACY| “In To Me See”

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You see me,you know me and you still choose me….

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Intimacy is derived from the Latin word Intima meaning “inner” or “innermost”. Inside each of us lies our intima; the deepest core of our person . Intimacy means deeply knowing another person and feeling deeply known.It is the ability for the inner most, authentic part of us to be seen by others. I think it is safe to say that intimacy is a basic desire of every human being, we all desire to be known ,loved,heard,appreciated and accepted for who we truly are and when that happens, bonds of affection, trust, and loyalty develops. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen in many relationships as the word intimacy can be very scary. Intimacy requires us to be vulnerable and open, and because of that people sometimes shy away from sharing their true self with others due to the fear of being rejected.

Intimacy is also known to be referred to as sex, although the words are often used interchangeably ,they are not the same, there is more to intimacy then just sex. You can have sexual relationship with someone and not feel close to them or have a real genuine connection, this is when you can easily disconnect with them because there was no real deep connection in the first place. Ideally, sex in a loving relationship should be the physical representation of intimacy and it should come from a place of love and connection. Although sex and intimacy are not the same the two are linked in such a way that intimacy can build sex and sex can build intimacy. There are countless ways to be intimate, and most of them aren’t sexual. Some of the most important intimate moments happen outside of the bedroom, for example spending an afternoon in with your spouse watching a movie, holding hands while you are talking and taking a walk at the park,going for an ice cream date,having a play date with your kids and cooking a favorite meal together , these are all experiences that can create intimate bonds.

There are times when we seek an emotional bond, the feeling of being accepted for ourselves,  sharing our happiness and tough times. We crave that state of being that is all about closeness, trust, and comfort. We want a special connection with another person at a deep emotional level, this is known as emotional intimacy. One of the requirements of being emotionally intimate, is the sharing of your emotions, personal details such as your thoughts and feelings or memories, especially those that may be difficult to expose to others. If you’re emotionally intimate with someone, you’re sharing all your feelings, secrets, and desires with them. They’re the person you can go to whenever you feel like talking about your feelings. It doesn’t have to be verbal, either. They can be your literal shoulder to cry on, or someone you can hug when you feel upset. Being emotionally intimate does require a high degree of trust. They’re someone you can trust with your secrets. In a way, emotional intimacy is one of the most important part of a relationship. If you can’t tell a secret to a friend because you don’t trust them, then why are you friends, If you can’t trust to express your feelings to your spouse, then why are you with them. It’s a cornerstone of all relationships.

This desire for intimacy with lovers and friends, to feel that we are not alone in the Universe, is innate in each of us but what we miss is that intimacy with others begins with intimacy with ourselves. All of your relationships are truly a reflection of you and who you really are. When you accept yourself, flaws and all you give courage to others to do the same. Spending time alone reflecting, loving, nurturing and being patient with yourself is essential for self-intimacy. We also need to spend time alone with ourselves to reconnect with who we are when we show up in relationships with others. The point of inner solitude is to provide a space to explore the pieces of yourself that you treasure or that you wish you could change. It is meant to be a space of self acceptance ,It is meant to be a space where you come home to your true self.

Whether it is emotional,sexual or self intimacy,intimacy is all about being seen and loved ,appreciated,accepted for all that we are. We all have an infinite source of self love and acceptance inside of us, find your way to access this Infinite source of you and radiate it outward. This will allow you to be seen and to have Intimacy with others because you will be seen for who you are within first. If you desire to finally be seen and known for who you are and develop Intimacy (into-me-see) with another in your life then take the time to see yourself first. Truly get familiar with the beauty that exists within you. Face your fears, open your heart and remember you are already WHOLE.

5 steps to deal with the feeling of being stuck

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“Stagnation in a mechanism that was created for movement produces frustration”

Have you ever been stuck before?

Stuck in a relationship.

Stuck in a job you hate

Stuck in the past.

Stuck in fear.

There comes a time in ones lifetime where we feel stuck.We live in a fast pace life that we feel like we should always be moving and if not we begin to feel frustrated. Matter of fact when I was writing this blog post I got stuck cause I didn’t know what write in order to articulate what it is that I was thinking, and oh boy did that frustrate me. We get stuck in the motion of thinking that life should be anything but what it is right now. The ideologies and pressure that we exert on ourselves to accomplish something by a certain age or time does not make it any easier, but keeps us in a rat race that leaves us more weary. For example,we think that by the age of 30 we should have it all figured out,that we should be further in our career then we are right now, or that we should be married with kids and be financially stable by then. The feeling of being stuck is really just the perception that we are ought to be doing more and having more then we currently are.

There are countless of times in my life that I have felt stuck,but one that I can recall was right after I graduated for my honors in Biotechnology.I was stuck between being happy that I was graduating and the fear of the unpredictable future. Not knowing if I was going to get a job in my field of study,Not knowing what I was going to do next or where this path would lead me,I got stuck in the fear of the unknown. Nevertheless, I knew that I needed to deal with this or else I was going to paralyzed by fear and anxiety. Below are 6 steps on how I dealt and continue to deal with the feeling of being stuck;

1.Admit that you are stuck

There is nothing worse then living in denial of what you are thinking and feeling,when we suppress feelings we don’t allow ourselves to heal and grow. Admitting that I was stuck was the first step that I took. As I began to be aware of my feelings, I then started to notice the thoughts patterns I would have that would lead me to fear and anxiety. The moment that I would feel fear creeping in is when I realized that I was thinking negative thoughts and this helped me to replace those thoughts with positive ones . When we admit to what it is that we are going through instead of rejecting it we awaken to our conscious and it is from this place that we learn to self reflect,heal and grow . When I awoken to the fact that to a certain extend I didn’t have full control on how life was going to play itself out I began to surrender to the different paths that life would lead me.

2. Don’t compare yourself to others

Comparison is indeed the thief of joy. At that time as I was a graduate without a job I felt frustrated,I had spend most of my days feeling depressed and helpless,I knew there was more that I wanted to do but I felt like I couldn’t move. I applied to a few job post but never got a call back for interviews and this had me feeling more stuck and discouraged. Most of my friends got jobs not so long after we graduated and even though I was very happy for them I couldn’t help but compare myself to them as to why I couldn’t get a job and wishing that I was them. Whatever situation that it might be it is often so easy to fall in the trap of comparison, we compare our lives with those of others not knowing that the grass is not always greener on the other side. We do not always know the sacrifices that people have to make to be where they are today. What comparison did was steal my joy and make me feel even worse about my life. When I stopped comparing my live to others I began to appreciate where I was in life.

3. Surrender your anxiety and fear to God

It was during this difficult and confusing time that I really learned to surrender and depend on God. It was during this time that my faith was tested. I remember feeling frustrated one afternoon as I laid my feeling and concerns before God, I cried,prayed and pleaded with him to do something about my situation and the way I was feeling, I didn’t want to feel fear and anxiety about my future anymore. I found myself leaning on God and his word. As I had more time on my hands, I would spend more time with God reading his word and worshiping him. My perception then began to shift ,I was now focusing more on him then my problems. I found myself feeling less stress and anxious as I began to surrender all of it to him. I knew that if I was not in total control of my life, God is and that he wants me to prosper. God wants all to go well with us, just as our soul prospers(3 John 1:2) ,he wants us to surrender our worries and anxiety to him because he cares for us(1 Peter 5:7). He is always there ready to listen and to help us go through the storms of life. We are never alone,surrender your problems to God because he cares for you.

4. Trust and rest In God

Matthew 11: 28 says “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest”. This is what God is saying to us,he wants us to bring our worries and burdens that we carry so heavily to him so that he gives us rest. In him we can find rest, and rest doesn’t require us to do anything but to be still and know that he is God. We don’t have to figure out how we are going to solve our problems or try to do things by our own strength, when we are in God’s rest he takes care of everything for as long as we trust in him and we do what we can, he will do what we can’t. During this time I’ve learned that life isn’t all about accomplishing things, sometimes it’s about resting and letting things be. God knows the plans he has for us, plans to prosper us and not to harm us, plans to give us a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). He knows the end from the beginning (Isiah 46:10), he knows how our lives are going to turn out all we have to do is trust him. Once you let go and let God things change because your perception changes. It is in the darkest periods of our life that we learn most about ourselves and how to trust God.

5. Be grateful

“”A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles”

Vicki Becker

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus ( 1 Thessalonians 5:18 ). There is always something to be grateful for in every situation whether good or bad. What I was grateful for at that moment was the mere fact that I had even graduated when that was once just a dream to me ,it was actually happening and I couldn’t thank God enough. I was thankful to just be alive to have had the opportunities that I had. Philippians 4:6-7 says “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God, and the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus “. There is a peace that comes with thanksgiving.

When I admitted to my self that I was stuck,that I didn’t know what to do,stopped comparing my self to others, surrendered my cares to God, trusted and rested in God and began to be grateful for all that I had, I then got my peace back,my joy and hope returned, I started living by faith and not by sight. 6 months later I got a call for a Job offer, now I am doing exactly what it is that I wanted and all glory goes to God.

There are still days when I feel anxious about certain situations in my life, but I’m getting better at letting go of the need to control things and letting God, as I learn to trust the process and enjoy the journey of life.

XoXo

Vee

A saviors love

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“Jesus loves me this I know for the bible tells me so”.

It is often so easy to sing a song about Jesus love for us without really understanding the magnitude of this love we sing and read about. At times it might get difficult to believe that Jesus loves you,you might ask yourself questions like can Jesus really love me? with all my flaws and bad habits,my sinful self, my non perfect self?.

Well yes Jesus loves you and he loves you unconditionally. He loves you so much that he died for you,yes you.Salvation is personal and therefore you should look at it like Jesus died for you personally, and that even if you had been the only person in this world he would still had died for you cause he loves you that much. We might not fathom and feel the truth of this all the time, but that is why we should live by faith and not by sight or our feelings. Romans 8:38-39 says that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. To know that nothing can ever separate us from his love is the best news one can ever receive.

Jesus might not love our sin or what it is that we do but he loves us and wants to have a relationship with us. Receive his love today. We love him cause he first loved us(1 John 4:19) and when we receive his love we are able to love other people like he loves them. Love your neighbor as you love yourself is one of the greatest commandments (Mark 12:30-31), but we can’t love others if we don’t love our self first. therefore it is necessary to allow God’s love to fill us and to see ourselves as he sees us,so that love can not only flow in us but through us to others.

Jesus love you (Insert your name here) Yes you believe that.

XoXo

Vee

Poem

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Love as a game

What is love if it’s just a game to you

A marathon, running, chasing for my heart

Lame, I was in it for the long run

You were in it to win it , then quit it

A game of cards, in a suit you lay out the deck

Cards on the table, you the ace to my heart

I thought I was the queen to your heart

With a spade, a razor blade, you bleed my heart

Underplayed my hurt, and then it finally hit me, Bingo

I was desperate for you to see that with me it ain’t a game

A game of take two, I guess it takes two to tango

I guess I’m the one to blame,I let you play with my emotions

Like a game of charades, I got lost in your parade

Second guessing every act you played

Now I’m using this spoken word, breaking the silence

Hoping that you would hear me, wishing that you have stayed

Stop playing these games and come over

Check mate

Baby game over

Hey, Lovely’s this is a poem I wrote awhile back, and I just thought i would share it with you guys. I’m not a professional poet or anything so bare with me lol. I have been into poetry lately and decided to write one myself just for the fun of it, I hope you like it

XoXo

Vee

Where is my Boaz?

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Single-hood

Where my single ladies at? are you single and ready to mingle or single and available.Perhaps you have have been single for quite sometime now or you just came out of a relationship. Whatever your situation is,you might agree that being single can sometimes get frustrating and lonely. You know on days like Saturday night when you make plans to hang out with your home girls but instead they decide to stay in with their boothangz and so you opt to stay home and Netflix with your cat whilst stuffing your face with ice cream,yep that kinda lonely.Perhaps on other days you find yourself third-wheeling on dates with your friend and their bae,but most days you don’t mind because “i am just here for the food”,until those awkward moments when they suddenly start sticking their tongue down each others throats and you don’t know what to do escape the PDA that has befallen you.

Then you get moments where you wish you had someone to call your own, your baby, your bae, your cutie potootie and all those sweet stuff .Maybe you even tried getting back in the dating scene by giving a few guys a chance,but due to a lack of connection,chemistry,biology, physics, history or whatever it might be, none of them seemed interesting enough for you to consider being with them.feeling like you are doomed to be alone forever, you wonder if you will ever find your king who will sweep you off your feet .

Well i am here to tell you that yes being single may suck at times, but single hood can be the most amazing journey you can experience. It’s in single hood where you spent time alone getting to know yourself. This is the time to take to get to do the things that you always wanted to do but perhaps couldn’t. Finish writing that book,get your drivers licence,finish that semester,spent more time with family and friends, read more books, whatever it is that needs to be done do it,don’t sit around with your arms crossed waiting for a man to come awaken you. This reminds me of the story of Ruth and Boaz in the book of Ruth in the bible (if you do get time to read,I recommend that you read their beautiful love story).Ruth wasn’t waiting around for a man to come to her aid , wondering if she will ever get married again,no instead she decided to make use of her time caring for and serving her mother in law Naomi,who at the time was left alone as she had lost her husband and sons,one of the sons who had died was Ruth’s husband. When Boaz found Ruth she wasn’t sitting at home drowning in her misery with nothing to do, he found her working in a field. What are you busy working on in your single season? are you doing what God has called you to do?are you working on your purpose? Ladies don’t wait for a man to come and save you,nooo honey work. Sometimes in order for our king to find us we must be in the field working on what God has called us to do.

You should use this time to love yourself, to heal from past relationships or any issues you might be dealing with so that when you do start dating again you don’t carry those baggage’s into the next relationship. Take this time to get closer to God,spent time with him. Hide yourself in God, let him cover you until he is ready to expose you to your Boaz. A woman’s heart is supposed to be buried in God that a man has to seek or know God in order to find her. Allow God to heal you and fill the empty void that you might be feeling. Take this time to work on your goals and to walk in your purpose. If you don’t know what your purpose is you can use this time to seek and ask God to reveal it to you. Your husband is part of your purpose and plan for your life. A husband or wife should be one that helps you walk in purpose, so until you find your purpose don’t settle, keep searching. The right one will eventually come when the time is right and as difficult as the waiting might get, it will all be worth it in the end.

If you aren’t happy single you wont be able to be happy in a relationship.Happiness comes from within, you don’t need someone to complete you,you should be whole by yourself so that your partner can only but compliment you.

What are your take on single hood? i would love to hear from you guys, please do leave a comment.

XoXo

Vee